Today is our tenth anniversary. We're on our tenth anniversary trip in Denver. Sweet place for an anniversary trip. The pic is from our trip to the Denver Art Museum yesterday at a very cool bubble art project.
I could go on and on about all the things I love about my wife, and I guess this would be an appropriate venue to do that, but we've had those conversations over the last few days and that's not where we ended up in our thought process...with how great the other person is.
Rather, we marvel at the depth of ten years as opposed to the starting point. We did our pre-marital counseling with the pastor I grew up under, Pastor Shirey, and he told us that this is how it would be. "You love each other deeply now, but you will realize that it is nothing compared to what it will be five, ten, twenty, fifty years from now," he said.
And he was so right.
Deeper...that's the best word for it. Other words and phrases are fitting: stronger, tougher, sexier, sacrificing, more complete, more solid, more trusting. But deeper was the consensus. The deeper I plunge the depths of Sheri's being, the more beauty I see, the more light there is, the more Jesus is present, the more oneness we experience. And the same is true for her.
One-flesh-ness is about so much more than sex. It's about the depths of the other person's body, soul and spirit and finding and calling out their design in those places. For as much light as we have found in one another, we have found comparable darkness -- but that's part of the depth. Our goal is not to comprise a list of expectations for the other to conform to and then guage the health of our marriage based around those expectations -- although that's what I see in so many couples today in the worlds in which I live. Our goal is to seek out the depth of the other's design and calling in Jesus and love them for who they are becoming so much more than loving them for who they now are, because who they now are may suck. It might be a point of some ugly darkness, but that is part of the depth, and Jesus has light to shine on that area and that light will primarily be released in the other party of the one-flesh-ness.
We love each other so much more deeply now than before and we can't believe that the future together holds even more depth of love. But we can't wait to go that deep.
What a journey it's been...
What a journey it will be.
It is easier to sail across the sea than down into it,
But now that the world is mapped --
Where's the risk in that?
And if love is not risk,
Then it is love that is dead.
We choose to plunge the depths of the deep.
2 comments:
congrats you two!
you give me something to look forward to.
It is so awesome that the two of you love each other like that.
Your words remind me of a time when Carrie and I were on a road trip. She looked at me and asked "Do you still love me as much as you did when we first met?" The only part of my response that got out of my mouth was "No" and she started to cry. I looked at her and said "If I still loved you like that the all of our past together would mean nothing. When we first met our love was infatuation. Our love is so much different and deeper than it was then. Back then I loved having you as part of my life, now you are part of who I am."
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